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Night at the Museum – Men through history

January 21, 2010 2 comments

Night at the Museum is an example a movie which I didn’t really appreciate the first time I saw it. The first time, I wasn’t yet a masculist, so I wasn’t looking at media from the perspective of men’s issues. But now I am, and I can now say that Night at the Museum is a fun adventure about a father, also with several other masculine messages mixed in.

The main character, Larry, is a divorced dad with partial custody (Wednesdays and every-other weekend) of his 10-year-old son, Nick. Larry is a schemer who goes from job to job, but he is also a loving father who eagerly spends time with his son, takes an interest in his activities and will do anything to not lose him.

By the end of the movie Larry is strong, in control and intelligent (he even studies!). His son loves him and both are confident about themselves and Larry’s work. Nick trusts his father and Larry doesn’t let himself be pushed around.. He is a good role model for his son and for young viewers alike.

On the topic of fathers, the movie makes a strong case for the importance of fathers to their children. Larry is very important to Nick. He isn’t just someone who can come and go without notice. Then there is also Attila the Hun. In a brief scene, he is revealed (or at least implied) to be so violent because he didn’t have a chance to spend time with his father. This helps establish the importance of paternal involvement, and it even does it without overly blaming Attila’s father. It is said the Hun-senior was off plundering and pillaging, but Larry also adds that he was “doing his job”, thereby not overly blaming the father for his absence, as so often happens.

The issue of male aggression is also approached by the Jed and Octavius characters. At one point, Jed says that they are fighting because they are men, and because that is what they do. This is an old tune, sung often, but Night at the Museum takes it a step further. Jed and Octavius go on to work together, laying aside their anger to help save the museum. Their wish to fight is pinned on their will to see their people thrive, showing them to be good leaders. Without even saying so, the movie quickly overturns the idea that men just want to fight for no reason by showing these two warriors teaming up and even becoming road-trip buddies. It’s easy to miss, but it is a welcome message.

Over all, night at the museum is a fun adventure movie about a strong father, and it also touches on other male issues as well. Larry is a strong male lead who is in control and focused, but also has a sense of humor and a more sensitive side which gleams through on a  few occasions. He is one of the rare examples of a ‘cool dad’ who isn’t a soldier, isn’t rich, isn’t a scientist and isn’t a stooge to his wife. He is a real cool dad.


Dockers “Wear The Pants” ad campaign – Part 2: …but who is responsible for getting us there?

December 30, 2009 3 comments

Welcome to Part 2 of my look at Dockers’ “Wear The Pants” ad campaign. Part 1 can be read here. For reference, here is the ad again:

Now, as I said, the ad is a call for men to take back up their old ways of strength and leadership. However, it is not so much a call to arms as a challenge. It does recognize that men were stripped of their place in society, but it also saddles them with 100% of the responsibility for setting things straight. It ignores what the cause of the problem might have been, instead demanding that men just fix it by acting like real men again. In medicine it is considered bad practice to treat the symptoms without treating the cause, but that is what is happening here.

Here the cause is society, as a whole, which needs to change, but men can’t be made totally responsible for changing it. We aren’t all Hercules.

This ad’s sentiment is echoed by many public figures, like President Obama, who has given calls to men to ‘step up’ and become better fathers. That is unreasonable when you consider the world we live in. Men are being told to be more like traditional men, but those traditional men are hated by feminists everywhere.

Consider this:

When women were first entering the workforce, were they met with hostility for having not been working? Were they told to ‘toughen up’ and start ‘wearing the pants’? No, allowances were made, aid was given and support extended. Most of this had to come from the men who were in control of the workplace. If anything, they were given nice, clean pants. And they got to keep their skirts too.

Now let’s look at modern men:

First we have a nice guy who wants to be a better man. He decides to be more chivalrous and to take on more responsibilities of leadership. What might he get for allowances, aid and support?

  • Allowances: Women might ‘allow’ him to flee before he gets torn apart (verbally and/or physically) for trying to tell them what to do.
  • Aid: I am sure many women would be glad to ‘aid’ him in being chivalrous by taking every opportunity to exploit his politeness.
  • Support: There would be ‘support’ for him doing all the dirty work, as long as he doesn’t try to claim any special privilege for doing so.

Now how about a more family oriented man, trying to become a better husband and father. What would he see?

  • Allowances: He would probably be ‘allowed’ to take the kids to soccer when mom is tired.
  • Aid: I am sure he would get plenty of ‘aid’ in the chores, like snide remarks about how he did it wrong and constant check-ups.
  • Support: There are probably support groups.

The truth is this: women expanded their horizons with the assistance of supportive men. How can men be expected to do the same without the support of women? Men who wanted to see women doing more had to become feminists. Women who want to see men doing more will need to be masculists. That doesn’t mean telling men to man up, it means giving men back a position of respect and helping them to be proud of being male. Men don’t need to change to fit society, society needs to change to fit men.

It is unfair and misandristic to call on men to be ‘manly’ again without also calling on the rest of society to support them in doing so. That would be like suddenly calling on women to return to life as homemakers, without taking any action to allow them to make up the lost income from stopping work.

On the Internet, there is a word for such an idea:


And unreasonable, and impossible, and cruel, and…

Dockers “Wear The Pants” ad campaign – Part 1: A return to tradition could be good…

December 28, 2009 3 comments

Personally, I am a denim man. Nonetheless, I was interested to see the new Dockers Khaki ad campaign, dubbed “Wear the Pants”.

When I say interested, I do not necessarily mean enticed. I have mixed feelings about the ads, but before I continue here it is:

The sum of the ad is this: men used to be men, but now men aren’t men anymore, so men need to start being men.

It talks about many old traditions of manhood. Taking charge, aiding women, not eating ‘sissy food’, etc., and how such things have fallen by the wayside.

Now, as I said, I see both good and bad in this ad. To get things started, I will look at the good aspects, which mostly fall in the upper part of the ad.

One thing I do like about the ad is that it recognizes how society has begun to act like men are not needed, leaving them ‘stranded by the road’. It talks about a ‘genderless society’ and the struggle of boys to transition into manhood, specifically in a world which doesn’t clearly define manhood any more. This is a real and serious problem in the western world and it is very important that we make sure our sons know who and what they are.

It is very nice to see recognition for the role men play in the raising of children, the ad citing ‘children misbehaving’ as one of the world’s problems which have arisen since men were demoted. It clearly states that the world needs men, which is something that can be too easily forgotten.

It also acknowledges and respects the role of leadership men have traditionally played. No matter how you feel about the kings and leaders of old, you can not deny that it was men who took up that responsibility. I agree that through most of history, men have ‘worn the pants well’.

The ad is a strong call for men to step back into life and once again become leaders (or probably co-leaders) of their people. However, I am not entirely in love with this ad. Next time I will have a look at the negative side of it, including its unfair portrayal of men as wholly responsible for change.

Gurren Lagann – Masculinity

December 11, 2009 4 comments

This is part 5 of a series exploring Gurren Lagann.

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And so we reach the end of my series on Gurren Lagann, yet there is still so much to say about this masterful piece of cinema. If there were one word to describe Gurren Lagann, it would be ‘Masculine’. It doesn’t get any more manly than this, but not in the American tradition of muscle cars and bikinis. Okay, there are giant robots and several bikinis, but that’s not what the show is about. It is about men doing what men do: doing whatever they have to do to save those they love, growing to overcome any obstacle, building a better world and making the impossible possible.

The men of Gurren Lagann are respectable, strong, emotional, intelligent (at least some) and loving. They are multi-faceted and manage to be manly without being ‘macho’. I believe this comes from a respect for masculinity which keeps them from having anything to prove. They are loved and respected for their manhood. They act like men, live like men, talk like men and they are not ashamed of it. The differences between the men and women of Gurren Lagann are clear, but neither is mocked or degraded. The men’s sense of masculinity does not come from degradation of the feminine, although the reverse is often true in American media. These men are afraid of no one, including themselves.

It is all very over-the-top, however, so this is not necessarily a one-stop guide to manhood, but it is a wonderful example of how a television series can show men with great respect and glory, much as women often get in America. This sense of over-the-top adventure also shows in the male characters’ attitudes about themselves. For the most part, they do not take themselves too seriously. I have always believed that one of the keys to manhood is having a sense of humor about yourself, and I think some of that shows in the men of Gurren Lagann.

Overall, Gurren Lagann is a beautiful and passionate display of masculinity in its many forms. The show has a great respect for men and what they do. They respect themselves and are respected by others as they fight for everything they believe in, using all their will and passion to succeed where all seems lost. It is an inspiring series to watch which will leave you invigorated and, for half of the world at least, proud to be male.

What this awesome sense of masculinity really boils down to is this:

These men are not ashamed of being male. They embrace it and do what it is they need to.

I do not think there is any piece of television I could recommend more highly.

I was planning on putting a picture here which I thought best represented what makes Gurren Lagann so great, but after several hours of searching I couldn’t find one. There are several scenes which sum it all up for me, but you will just have to watch it to see for yourself.

But, since I don’t like to give up, here are a few of my favorite shots:

Happy viewing.

Gurren Lagann – Warriors

December 10, 2009 1 comment

This is part 4 of a series exploring Gurren Lagann.

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Gurren Lagann is a story of male warriors who fight with their very souls and all the strength of humanity to achieve the impossible. It shows and respects the natural warrior instinct of men. Men and women are both aggressive in different ways, but there is often disdain shown for the aggression of men (that of women is also often simply denied). Gurren Lagann is an action show, filled with violence, but it is not pointless violence. The men here are aggressive, many wanting to fight, but they are largely in control and know what they are doing. They go into battle with all their heart, fighting for their cause, not for ego or glory or riches. They are the kind of warriors you can respect. Warriors are often blood thirsty and corrupt, but many are also noble men who do battle out of need, not blood lust. I believe Gurren Lagann mostly portrays the latter.

Now, it is not always good to glorify the act of fighting. However, I believe that what is wrong is glorifying the act of killing. That is what murderers do. Gurren Lagann glorifies the act of doing battle, of using your whole self to fight for victory. That is what warriors do and that is what we see in Gurren Lagann.

These men are also more than warriors. They are not dangerous psychopaths, but passionate leaders and lovers. Off the battlefield we see them as caring fathers and companions, to their fellow warriors and those who did not fight with them. They are not feared or ridiculed for their warrior instincts. They are respected and praised for all the good they do by fighting in battle. This aggression is kept in balance by the more peaceful characters, as has always been the case in history. Gurren Lagann shows how male passion and aggression can be embraced and appreciated, as it should be.

Another way respect is shown for the warrior-men of Gurren Lagann is in how their deaths are handled. There are plenty of deaths, especially of men, but it isn’t just pointless ‘man-slaughter’. They are dieing for a cause and others around them care. A lot of media will just throw in deaths here and there without real thought, but these deaths have real meaning behind them. Even when a mass of nameless and faceless men plunge into death, it is made to have feeling, to invoke an emotional response. Men have always been the ones who die for what they believe in, but modern western media has come to often belittle or mock this. Not so here. These men are ready to die, but they are anything but disposable.

These men are warriors to their bones and they are loved and respected for that. They are not one-dimensional meat-heads, however. These men are human first, fighters second. Violence is rarely the right path, but sometimes you can only succeed by fighting for what you believe in, and it is usually men who do this fighting.

Next time I will take a final look at the series as a whole and explore its overall image and sense of masculinity.

Gurren Lagann – Brotherly Love

December 9, 2009 1 comment

This is part 3 of a series exploring Gurren Lagann.

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Ah, Simon and Kamina. When I first saw Gurren Lagann, the thing which made me fall in love with it, the thing which endeared it to me was its true, pure, unashamed portrayal of brotherly love between the two male leads. They are not actually related, but they have a sense of kinship and comradeship which is hard to find in American media.

Kamina is much older than Simon, but this isn’t a case of older-brother worship. Simon looks up to Kamina, but Kamina does not look down at Simon. They love and admire one another deeply, and it shows. This kind of brotherly affection is sorely lacking in western media. There is a much greater understanding for how women care for one another (‘girl-friends’), but not so for men, and it is important to remember that men love in a very different way than women. On several occasions, Kamina attacks Simon, but when he does so it is not out of anger or mindless aggression. He is driving his blood-brother to be the best he can be. One of the ways men show affection for one another is by challenging one another. This is how men bond and this is how fathers teach their children to be the best they can be and Gurren Lagann understands this.

It is this recognition and respect for brotherly love which I myself so love. Here we have two men who love each other as much as any two people could. They would die for one another and they trust one another without question. There is no closer bond than that between warriors, and the bonds of brotherhood, related or not, share many similarities with the bonds shared by warriors. One of the things I so respect the Japanese for is their ability to portray men in this fashion, something westerners often fail at. Relationships like this shown in western media tend to stumble into one of two problems:

1) They come off as homophobic, the men obviously conscious of the possibly gay nature of their behavior, or

2) They come off as actually gay, even when they aren’t.

Now, I have nothing against the gay community, but American media often seems very uncomfortable with the issue of male affection. The narrow media definition of manly behavior leads male-to-male relationships to be less than sincere, which can lead to the above problems.

However, Gurren Lagann does not succumb to this.  It might be because of the age difference between Simon and Kamina, or their lovers or the clearly gay character, but I think that their relationship is believable simply because it is unashamed. There are no awkward ‘man hugs’ here, nor annoying jokes about the characters being accused of being gay. There is just their deep love, and everyone involved accepts and understands it.

Gurren Lagann shows how men can truly love one another in the fashion of brothers. Dedication, caring, helping one another to grow, all this combines with the eternal male thirst for competition to allow men to drive one another to greatness, as warriors do, as brothers do. It demonstrates how, in a world where men are allowed to be men, brothers could and would truly love each other. Such a world would be a far more pleasant place to live.

Tomorrow I will have a look at how Gurren Lagann handles the ideas of warriors and death.

Gurren Lagann – Emotion

December 8, 2009 1 comment

This is part 2 of a series exploring Gurren Lagann.

Part 1

If there is one thing Gurren Lagann is not afraid of being, it is passionate. Well, that and epic, but that is a different issue. This animated story runs rampant with excitement, tragedy, comedy and downright awesomeness. All this is fueled by characters who show drive, fury, caring and weakness in a great display of human nature.

Our hero, Simon, begins as a young, fearful boy. It is his friend, idol and blood-brother Kamina who drives him to do more. He may be meek, but he has an inner-fire which comes out with fury. A major focus of Simon’s story is self belief. He has to come to believe in himself, if sometimes through a convoluted network of surrogate-belief, so that he can fight for humanity.

Eventually overcoming a terrible tragedy by discovering his self-confidence, Simon begins to evolve into a confident man capable of facing any challenge. Along the way he finds his love, and he is not afraid to show how he feels, for her or his other friends. There is no awkward hiding of feelings here, luckily. Simon is shown to obviously care about those he fights with and so he fights for them. Simon may stutter in expressing his feelings a few times, but not from fear of his emotions, just natural human doubt.

Even as he grows older and stronger, Simon continues to show his vulnerable side as he must fight against untold odds to save his world and the life of his love. There is never any sense of macho-pride here, just pure human emotion, truthful and heartfelt. The characters never have a sense of invincibility, but they never give-up when their backs are to the wall.

Overall, the characters of Gurren Lagann, both male and female, show great heart and emotion, often better portrayed than in many live-action films. A core theme is the power of the human spirit, so the show undeniably encourages getting in touch with your emotions and using your positive feelings to drive you. Its male characters strike a balance between strength and weakness which is refreshing. Elsewhere, many characters (especially men) are either weaklings with emotion or tough-guys without emotions, both despised. Here we have believable men who are as strong as it gets but are still human, and so have feelings and vulnerabilities.

The message? Feelings do not make you weak, they make you strong. Embrace them and be the best you can be.

I also love the sense of classical romance this show has. Some might call me a chauvinist, but there isn’t anything more romantic than the hero holding his woman on his lap as he pilots his mecha into battle with the ultimate forces of evil. And she doesn’t have to just be a pretty flower. She can and should kick in all her energy and passion too.

Next time I will look at how all this heart and soul comes into play in the relationships between the men of the series.