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AskMen.com’s “Top 10 Ways To Become An Evolved Man” – Evolution is good

It is said that man evolved from lower lifeforms, but that means we may still have more evolving to do.

The Top 10 Ways to Become An Evolved Man discusses this from the perspective of dating. How can we men act more ‘evolved’, improving ourselves to better attract women/mates.

However, I found that this article goes a bit deeper than that. All of its 10 points are themed around dating, but they are also good ideas for living a better, fuller life. Many of these ideas strike at the core of the many ways our modern society oppresses the behavior of men.

A few of my favorites from the list of 10 are:

Number 10 – Teach Others What You Learn:

Mentoring is a common part of human life, be it father to son, mother to daughter or master to learner. The idea of making a habit of sharing what you learn is a good one. Men are often made to be far too isolated and this kind of behavior can help open them up to others.

Number 8 – Accept Anxiety:

As I have discussed before, the practice of radical innovation has traditionally fallen to men (not that women don’t innovate). However, the modern soci-complex focused on performance can often drive men to be very fearful of trying new things for risk of failure. Those who succeed are those who are not afraid to fail. To achieve such a mindset men must learn to trust themselves and must be able to trust women to not be cruel at their times of failure.

Number 5 – Know Your Purpose in Life:

A focus in life is very important. It can even make you live longer. Men are often driven to become so career-focused that they lose their real direction in life, becoming worker drones. Some life purposes once dear to men, such as fatherhood, have largely been taken away by society and we need to take them back. Climbing the corporate ladder is not a purpose. Leading a full and righteous life is.

Next are numbers 3 and 2:

Number 3 – Stop Giving Approval To Get it

Number 2 – Stop Seeking Approval

Both say basically the same thing: stop pandering to the women around you.

Men have a natural tendency to be very accommodating to females, even if only out of a drive to breed, but this behavior has and is often exploited by women to gain power over men.

Numbers 3 and 2 are important lessons. No one should twist themselves in knots just to win approval from those around them. If a woman doesn’t like you as you are, don’t go changing just for a chance, and this includes letting her get away with anything. That goes on far too often. The ‘old ball and chain’ should be going both ways, not just one, or be done away with all together.

Number 1 – Stop Apologizing

And so we come to Number 1. Truer words were never spoken. For several generations now, your standard piece of relationship advice for men is “just apologize”. The minute men started apologizing for being men was the hour of our doom. If she doesn’t have to apologize for staying out late with her friends, neither does he. Fair is fair and the road to a functional relationship is not one person always taking the blame.

Or maybe women should all have to apologize every time they talk too much.

No, then every conversation would end with a “sorry”.

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  1. Taliesin
    December 18, 2009 at 10:18 am

    Too true dude, I mean not to long Ago my mother was complaining about something and my father didn’t know why she was so angry, what was my sister Idea, oh, yes, just Apologize, my mother has done far worse things with out Apologizing.
    Men far to often simple have to let their wives get away with anything, well one reason might be that if he didn’t then the wife could just leave him, taking with her, all the children, his money, his house, everything that was inside it, the shirt off his back, and, oh, yeah that other one, he will then have to pay hundreds, if not thousands of dollars ever month, to a woman with whom he is no longer living, now I would say that we should simply have a time limit, people, and by that I mostly mean men, do to how they are the only ones who really have to pay, should have to stop paying to the people who they don’t live with after one year, that would give them time to get one there feet, and that only if the other person is a homemaker and dose not have a job, if it has a job then, sorry woman, you left me, I am not going to pay for you anymore.

    Men far to often have there very souls striped of them, they no longer have anything to live for, he has been put into marriage laws, so that he can’t leave, he has been put into work so that he can’t leave, and the main reason that he would like to stay, for his children, is oh yeah, taken away, Men need to take part in the lives of their childminder, they made them, they paid for them, why should I not get to spend time with them. Then there Child support, it should be removed if you ask me, she is the one who has the last say if they get a baby, it is her responsibility if you ask me.

  2. December 19, 2009 at 7:44 pm

    What about couples who came together and choose to stay together because they LOVE and RESPECT each other? Don’t you see any of that in the world? People who do what ever they can to help each other’s lives -including their children’s – be as happy as possible, how ever they can be of help. Who don’t worry about gender traps, but work together, as equal partners.

    It sounds like these types of positive, healthy relationships are not yet evident to you. But, they do exist! And yes, men who love and appreciate their wives as a beloved companion, not as their servant, they will create a bond that allows them to trust her and not suspect all of these manipulations you voice concern about.

    But couples who do not communicate openly, well, it can be a pit of disappointment where things spiral downward, endlessly. Doubt, suspision, mistrust, resentment – it can all fester and then boil over when there is not good communication.

  3. December 19, 2009 at 7:47 pm

    Copy of article changed to link and sample – Editor

    Review of new TV show from salon.com : “the Meek Shall Inherit the Mirth”
    comedy that is “a celebration of humility and down-to-earth dorkiness”

    I’d rather hang out with the humble crowd. Personally, I feel most comfortable among people with disheveled hair and outdated shoes who don’t have enough time or money to do much of anything beyond loading and unloading the dishwasher over and over and over again.

    • December 21, 2009 at 8:06 am

      In the future, please refrain from posting a whole article. We don’t want to clog up the comments.
      A link is fine.

      Thank you.

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